Fact: Mother Bear is Always Watching
Four days into enjoying the homemade meals
and the luxury of not paying rent, you realize, “I. Have. No. Social. Life.”
You don’t have the freedom you had in college to go out as you please. Your
parents always insist on answering the following questions:
Where you are going?
Who you are seeing?
How do I know them?
Fact is, this is incredibly embarrassing. You’re faced with the harsh judgment and approval from your parents that you thought you left behind in your high school days. Fret not though– there are some ways to deal with conversing about your social life with parents.
Fact is, this is incredibly embarrassing. You’re faced with the harsh judgment and approval from your parents that you thought you left behind in your high school days. Fret not though– there are some ways to deal with conversing about your social life with parents.
Survival Tips
A) Remain Calm and
Social On: Studies show
that most parents wholeheartedly love their children. Remember guys, your
parents love you – there questions and concerns just go to prove how much they
care (and maybe that they’re slightly psychotic). But be honest as you can with
them and do your best. Let them know that they can trust you and when you don’t
come home one night, or try to give them a heads up.
B) There Not Always Right: Psychologist Suzanne Newman reported how parents
can easily push us away from. Show them the mistakes they
could be making that also push you away. These could be things like asking questions that are TOO personal or uncomfortable.
C) The Distraction Method: While you may
be bombarded with questions, you can always resort back to the good old fashion “changing
the subject strategy” we all should have mastered back in high
school.
For inspiration on how to learn to love your situation at home check out Jillian Knowles' story.
Now that you know how to cope with parental guidance questions, check in next week on how to keep being social with friends back at home.
Oh do I understand this situation all to well. As a fellow "home-girl," I get these questions all the time. Although not asked often, my favourite question would have to be the classic:
ReplyDelete"is that what your wearing out ?"
As if the fact that I am at the door didn't imply that this is indeed what I was wearing out.
All in all, you know they love you and you can't help but to love them for that.
It’s so true, be it skipping a meal, staying out late or leaving the house without informing, you’re guaranteed to become that 10 years old that your parents think you are and you always will be. Having said that I kinda miss it, been staying away for too long I guess. Great blog, it reminds me of home.
ReplyDeleteExactly! Parents from all around the world are the same. Same watching, same asking, same concerning, and most important, same love. Great post, Lauren!
ReplyDeleteIm lucky to have very easy going parents. They didnt restrict my freedom when I used to live with them. But yeah, i did have some misunderstandings with them sometimes, which we solved very quickly. Great post! Its nice to see how people manage their relationships with parents.
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